Relationship Coaching: The Practice of Conscious Relating

Build a living practice of truth, desire, play and polarity - so you both grow and feel deeply alive.

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Trusted by founders, CXOs, and creativesClients across the UK, Europe, US, South America and AsiaDeep, respectful, no-fluff conversations Trusted by founders, CXOs, and creativesClients across the UK, Europe, US, South America and AsiaDeep, respectful, no-fluff conversations Trusted by founders, CXOs, and creativesClients across the UK, Europe, US, South America and AsiaDeep, respectful, no-fluff conversations

What is Relationship Coaching at Nibana?

Relationship Coaching at Nibana is a modern path of conscious relating. We treat your relationship as a practice - where truth, communication, desire, eros, play and emotional intelligence are trainable skills. Instead of managing problems, we grow capacity: speaking what’s real, hearing each other without defence, honouring boundaries, and cultivating dynamic polarity (masculine–feminine dynamics) as energy and skill, not stereotype.

In sessions we slow things down, clarify values and desires, and co-create living agreements and rituals. You’ll practise honest requests, embodied listening, and playful polarity so attraction and connection keep renewing. The aim is simple: a relationship that makes both of you more yourselves.

What you’ll get

A felt sense of safety and aliveness - seen, wanted, respected.
Clearer communication and faster, cleaner repair when needed.
Renewed attraction and playful chemistry that sustains over time.
Shared vision and agreements you can actually keep.
Better self-awareness and ownership from both partners.
Practical rituals (10–15 mins/day or weekly) that make progress visible.

Is this for you?

  • You want relationship to be a path of growth, not just crisis management.
  • You value truth, clean communication and mutual respect - even when it’s hard.
  • You want to master the masculine–feminine dynamic and polarity as a skill you can practise.
  • You want desire, eros, and play back in the mix, not just logistics.
  • You want to learn how to thrive in conflict.
  • You’re ready to co-create living agreements and stick to them.
  • You prefer practical tools and rituals over theory.
  • You’re both willing to take responsibility and practise between sessions.

The Process

  1. Connection call (20 min) — understand where you are and what you want.
  2. Deep-dive (60–90 min) — surface patterns, define outcomes, map first moves.
  3. Coaching container — bespoke cadence; practices to create durable change.
  4. Integration — track shifts; adjust as you evolve.

The Performance to Presence Method™

What we work with

  • Identity work - clarify who you are beneath roles and expectations. We do this by looking at things like Boundaries, Victim Consciousness, Core Beliefs, Shadow Work, Archetype & Inner Child work, and understanding Cultural Conditioning
  • Inner Skills - We generally learn skills that help us navigate the external world and be successful. However, we pay little attention or importance to our internal landscape. These skills can include cultivating attention, mindfulness, energy accounting, feminine-masculine dynamics, eros, principles of deep connection, embodiment, understanding desire cycle, orgasmic meditation (OM), reactivity vs responsiveness, and more…
  • Practices - At Nibana, we believe that in order to transform your life, sustainable change has to be rooted firmly in the discipline of practices or rituals.
  • Life as Play - Our coaching model introduces a set of principles for a life based on living life as an Infinite Game, i.e., creating a life where play and mystery are the core.

How change becomes durable

We pair insight with embodied practices—simple daily reps that re-train attention, emotion, and energy. Over weeks, these compound into a steadier nervous system, cleaner choices, and visible results at work and in relationships.

Our vibe

Straight, respectful conversations. No fluff. We go at the pace of truth—and we make room for play and mystery along the way.

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What our clients say

What does one do after the big goal is achieved? What does one do when money, fame, or even impact/contribution no longer cut it out for you? I turned to Kapil for coaching.

Through a dozen sessions, I got to understand myself and the world out there more. His sessions gave me relief from the immediate, resolved what was in my head and heart, and more importantly, gave me tools and perspectives to go deeper and go beyond the immediate resolutions.

The sessions have made me unfuckwithable, and have given me a mature worldview on relationships.

I gained deep, lasting clarity on my business and the purpose it can serve for me and the world.

Also, I might not have had the wonderful, magical relationship with my “current fiance and soon-to-be wife” had Kapil not entered my life!

Tanuj Kalia
CEO, Lawctopus
India

I’ve had the honour of working with Kapil for the last few months and each and every session has always left me with an “aha” moment. His insightfulness, guidance and compassion has truly been a blessing.

I never thought that I would need a “coach” when Kapil was recommended to me yet now I have a better understanding of my fears, more clarity around my desires, and certainty about the life that I want to live. For that, I’m truly grateful. I would highly recommend Kapil

Christopher Thomas
Global Membership Manager, Club Quarter Hotels
New York City, USA

I reached out to Kapil as I was looking for some help with my career change. After one call, we got to the centre of my fear and my motivation behind leaving my job. But even more powerfully, Kapil helped me put into motion the bold action needed to make the leap. I left my job a few months later and haven’t looked back!

David Chambers
Men's Dating & Relationship Coach / Founder of The Authentic Man podcast
London, UK

Kapil gave me the tools and frameworks that helped me recognise my self-limiting beliefs and patterns. His advice and encouragement has been invaluable in my personal growth.

Bhavesh Dhaka
Consultant and Entrepreneur
Hong Kong

Common myths → What’s actually true

Myth “Coaching is just advice or cheerleading.”
Truth It’s a structured process that changes how you see and act.
Myth “It takes ages to feel anything.”
Truth You’ll notice early shifts; durable change compounds over weeks.
Myth “Coaching is only for crises.”
Truth It’s for anyone who wants a more alive, aligned next chapter.

Frequently asked questions

What do you mean by “conscious relating”?
It’s treating relationship as an ongoing practice: telling the truth, taking ownership, regulating under pressure, and choosing one another on purpose. We build skills that make both connection and individuality stronger.
How do you work with masculine–feminine dynamics without stereotypes?
We treat them as complementary energies/skills - direction & receptivity, presence & surrender, devotion & play - that all humans can cultivate. You’ll learn practical exercises to blend them in conversations, decisions and intimacy.

We will also look at traditional cultural conditioning around masculine and feminine ideas and how they might be blocking deeper connection and intimacy
What role do desire, eros, and play have in this coaching?
Desire, Eros, and play are signals and fuel. Eros is life energy, and true desire acts as our compass. Play is about looking at relationships as an infinite game as opposed to the finite game of power dyamics.
Will we create agreements and rituals to use between sessions?
Yes. We co-create living agreements (overt and covert expectations, honest communication, defining the 3rd of the relationship etc. ) and simple rituals (daily/weekly check-ins) so change compounds between sessions.
How quickly will we see results?
Many couples feel more connection and relief within 1–2 sessions; durable shifts typically build over 6–12 sessions with practice between meetings.
How long are sessions and how often do we meet?
Standard sessions are 60 minutes, weekly or fortnightly. We’ll agree a cadence that fits your goals and season of life in the intro call.