Eros - Orgasmic Meditation (OM)

A 15-minute, consent-based partnered practice that is science-backed and helps cultivate attention, empathy, and erotic intelligence.

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Eros - Orgasmic Meditation (OM)
Trusted by founders, CXOs, and creativesClients across the UK, Europe, US, South America and AsiaDeep, respectful, no-fluff conversations Trusted by founders, CXOs, and creativesClients across the UK, Europe, US, South America and AsiaDeep, respectful, no-fluff conversations Trusted by founders, CXOs, and creativesClients across the UK, Europe, US, South America and AsiaDeep, respectful, no-fluff conversations

What is Orgasmic Meditation?

Orgasmic Meditation (OM) is a structured, 15-minute partnered practice that blends mindfulness with sexual energy to train presence, sensation, and mutual empathy. It’s not foreplay or performance; it’s a deliberate container for feeling and truth. You’ll learn clear roles, clean communication, and the art of noticing - so desire becomes information, boundaries feel natural, and connection grows by design.

We teach OM with rigorous consent, safety and step-by-step instruction. You’ll understand the philosophy, the protocol, and how to integrate it into life or relationship. Many students pair OM with coaching to process beliefs, build emotional literacy, and create simple rituals that keep intimacy alive between sessions.

There’s a growing body of research exploring OM’s psychological and neurological effects, including distinct brain-activity patterns and improvements in mood, connection, and regulation. We’ll keep your learning grounded, practical, and aligned with what feels true for you.

What you’ll get

Greater body presence and a clearer nervous system.
Easier, cleaner communication around desire and boundaries.
Cultivating deeper attention and focus.
More empathy and attunement - feeling seen, wanted, and respected.
Simple practices (daily/weekly) that make progress visible.
Momentum you can feel within 4–6 weeks.

Is this for you?

  • You want intimacy to be a conscious practice, not a guessing game.
  • You value consent, truth-telling, and clear boundaries.
  • You’re curious about polarity and erotic intelligence as trainable skills.
  • You’re single or partnered and want a practical way to cultivate connection.
  • You prefer structured guidance and weekly experiments over theory.
  • You’re willing to practise between sessions.
  • Not for you if you’re seeking sexual services, entertainment, or if there is ongoing coercion/violence - specialist support is safer first. We can signpost resources.

The Process

  1. Connection call (20 min) — understand where you are and what you want.
  2. Deep-dive (60–90 min) — surface patterns, define outcomes, map first moves.
  3. Coaching container — bespoke cadence; practices to create durable change.
  4. Integration — track shifts; adjust as you evolve.

The Performance to Presence Method™

What we work with

  • Identity work - clarify who you are beneath roles and expectations. We do this by looking at things like Boundaries, Victim Consciousness, Core Beliefs, Shadow Work, Archetype & Inner Child work, and understanding Cultural Conditioning
  • Inner Skills - We generally learn skills that help us navigate the external world and be successful. However, we pay little attention or importance to our internal landscape. These skills can include cultivating attention, mindfulness, energy accounting, feminine-masculine dynamics, eros, principles of deep connection, embodiment, understanding desire cycle, orgasmic meditation (OM), reactivity vs responsiveness, and more…
  • Practices - At Nibana, we believe that in order to transform your life, sustainable change has to be rooted firmly in the discipline of practices or rituals.
  • Life as Play - Our coaching model introduces a set of principles for a life based on living life as an Infinite Game, i.e., creating a life where play and mystery are the core.

How change becomes durable

We pair insight with embodied practices—simple daily reps that re-train attention, emotion, and energy. Over weeks, these compound into a steadier nervous system, cleaner choices, and visible results at work and in relationships.

Our vibe

Straight, respectful conversations. No fluff. We go at the pace of truth—and we make room for play and mystery along the way.

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What our clients say

What does one do after the big goal is achieved? What does one do when money, fame, or even impact/contribution no longer cut it out for you? I turned to Kapil for coaching.

Through a dozen sessions, I got to understand myself and the world out there more. His sessions gave me relief from the immediate, resolved what was in my head and heart, and more importantly, gave me tools and perspectives to go deeper and go beyond the immediate resolutions.

The sessions have made me unfuckwithable, and have given me a mature worldview on relationships.

I gained deep, lasting clarity on my business and the purpose it can serve for me and the world.

Also, I might not have had the wonderful, magical relationship with my “current fiance and soon-to-be wife” had Kapil not entered my life!

Tanuj Kalia
CEO, Lawctopus
India

I’ve had the honour of working with Kapil for the last few months and each and every session has always left me with an “aha” moment. His insightfulness, guidance and compassion has truly been a blessing.

I never thought that I would need a “coach” when Kapil was recommended to me yet now I have a better understanding of my fears, more clarity around my desires, and certainty about the life that I want to live. For that, I’m truly grateful. I would highly recommend Kapil

Christopher Thomas
Global Membership Manager, Club Quarter Hotels
New York City, USA

I reached out to Kapil as I was looking for some help with my career change. After one call, we got to the centre of my fear and my motivation behind leaving my job. But even more powerfully, Kapil helped me put into motion the bold action needed to make the leap. I left my job a few months later and haven’t looked back!

David Chambers
Men's Dating & Relationship Coach / Founder of The Authentic Man podcast
London, UK

Kapil gave me the tools and frameworks that helped me recognise my self-limiting beliefs and patterns. His advice and encouragement has been invaluable in my personal growth.

Bhavesh Dhaka
Consultant and Entrepreneur
Hong Kong

Common myths → What’s actually true

Myth “Coaching is just advice or cheerleading.”
Truth It’s a structured process that changes how you see and act.
Myth “It takes ages to feel anything.”
Truth You’ll notice early shifts; durable change compounds over weeks.
Myth “Coaching is only for crises.”
Truth It’s for anyone who wants a more alive, aligned next chapter.

Frequently asked questions

What exactly is Orgasmic Meditation (OM)?
A 15-minute, partnered attention practice blending mindfulness and sexual energy. It’s a step-by-step protocol designed to cultivate sensation, presence, empathy and honest communication.
Is OM sex, therapy, or a clinical procedure?
It’s none of those. OM is a wellness/attention practice with a defined protocol and philosophy. It is not foreplay, not performance, and not a medical or therapeutic procedure. The goal is feeling and awareness, not “outcomes.” 
How is safety handled - consent, boundaries, and communication?
We use explicit consent, clear roles, and shared language (“stop/slow/more”), with check-ins and time-outs as standard. You’ll learn boundaries that protect connection and after-care to integrate the experience.
Do I need a partner, and do you teach online or in person?
You can learn OM solo or as a couple. We typically teach the core protocol over three online sessions, and many clients combine OM with coaching for integration. 
Is there nudity - what are the roles in the practice?
There's no nudity involved during coaching/ training sessions. The practice itself involves nudity where the strokee undresses from the waist down and lies in a prepared “nest”; the stroker remains clothed and uses a specific, light stroke for 15 minutes. The protocol is consent-based, timed, and non-goal-oriented. 
How long are sessions and how often do we meet?
Standard sessions are 60 minutes, weekly or fortnightly. We’ll agree a cadence that fits your goals and season of life in the intro call.