In a conversation with a coaching client, we talked about how easy it is to fall into comfort.
The people we connect with, the jobs we do, our bland relationships, how we live our lives, our relationship to money – once we start getting habituated to our environment we can find comfort literally anywhere.
I remember 8 years ago when I moved from Edinburgh to London. I had rented a room in a shared flat for a short term online and when I first saw the room I was hugely disappointed. I thought I had made a terrible mistake by moving to London leaving behind 11 years of my life in Edinburgh.
However, within a few weeks of living there, I became very comfortable. In fact, I really enjoyed living there.
As humans, I feel that this applies to pretty much any area of our life. Once we become habituated to anything or anyone we find comfort in it.
“So, how do we break this cycle and move forward”, my client asked.
My experience is that the answer lies in a very simple and yet very powerful question. And that question is:
“What do I want?”
OR
“What kind of experience I would like to have?”
These questions may not seem very powerful, but they are huge pattern disrupters!
Here’s an important part though. At this stage, do not worry about HOW you will get what you want. Do not dwell on how difficult it is to get what you want, or how you are not capable enough or good enough to get it or become that person who can have it.
No!
Shush!!
Zip!!
Tell that part of your brain to shut up for a while! And only focus on WHAT, not the HOW! For now anyway!
As soon as you ask yourself this question, you get to realise whether you are aligned to who you are and how you want to live your life.
When you do that you align your being to your desire and desire becomes your compass for growth, excitement and new adventures!
And you get to break the pattern or the vicious habituated cycle of mediocrity!