Transformational Life Coach in London

Transformational life coaching is a type of coaching that works on an individual’s self-awareness and behavior, so they can make changes in their lives. 

In our experience, transformational coaches can facilitate change and growth at a deeper level. They also help create lasting change.

It involves reflection and holding space so that it helps clients explore their beliefs, emotions, cognition, and relational patterns to create a more complete understanding of their perspective in the world. 

At Nibana, we use an embodied approach to transformative coaching. A coaching model that combines mind, body, and soul; and helps you come into alignment with all of them.

The trajectory of our lives is often decided when we are young. We hear messages from our family, friends, media, social circle, and people we care about or look up to. 

We hear these messages that create beliefs about how our lives should look like. We decided that if we tick these boxes, we will get the reward of happiness, fulfilment, love, companionship and, ultimately, bliss.

As a result, we set out on a life path - both professionally and personally, ticking all the boxes, and when we get to the summit, we find that it is not all that was promised. 

If you are someone living through these patterns, some of the challenges listed below may resonate:

• You have ticked all the boxes - money, recognition, success, relationships, family- yet it all feels empty.

• You often wonder if there is more to life than what you are experiencing.

• You have proven to the world that you are capable, and there’s nothing left to prove.

• You feel lost and don’t know how to return to that feeling of joy you once had access to.

• You are scared that if you stop, your life will fall apart, and you will feel stuck on the hamster wheel of more and more achievement.

Self-Awareness And Self-Management

A better understanding of your core beliefs, your strengths and being able to manage your emotions will allow you to be a better human being and a leader.

Better Relationships - Self, Romantic Partners And Colleagues

Cultivating empathy and understanding masculine-feminine dynamics and the language of emotions will help you transform your relationship with Self, your romantic partner(s), and your business and work colleagues.

Emotional Intelligence

Through building self-awareness and empathy, you will become more intuitive and be able to read other people’s emotions and your surroundings and see other people’s perspectives beyond the need to be better than proving your self-worth or value.

360-Degree Impact On Your Life

Everything in our life is connected. As you change one area of your life, you will start to see other areas transform - personal, family, relationships, intimacy, work, purpose, and higher power!

Deep Understanding Of Your Own Blueprint And Relationship With Yourself

As you do the work of self-excavation, you will see any parts of your life that you have been living as a way to please others. You will get a deep sense of who you are and your uniqueness and learn to design all areas of your life from this place.

A Deep Sense Of Fulfilment And Joy

You will learn to live your life with a foundation of joy and fulfilment in your soul. A sense of childlike play and mystery 

A Life That Is Happening For You And Not To You!

You will no longer feel like a victim of your circumstances or anyone else. You will learn to take full responsibility for your experiences and learn to reframe your experiences, and see that life is happening FOR you! 

Thrive In Uncertainty And The Unknown

You will learn to have an internal sense of safety so that you let go when you expand outside your comfort zone.

Self Mastery And Leadership

You will move from competing with others to a life that is about being in your potential and continuous improvement. You will become an emotionally intelligent leader who inspires others and leads by example and empathy. You will start to see mastery as a process and not a destination.

Identity Work 

Identity work is about cultivating a deep understanding of who you are and how you got to where you are today. We do this by looking at things like:

Boundaries

Where do you say Yes to things when you are a No, and where do you say No to things when you are actually a Yes? Boundaries play an important role in defining our personal space - physically, emotionally and energetically. 

It is our responsibility to understand our boundaries and educate people around us on how to be with us. 

Victim Consciousness

Do you believe life is happening TO you or FOR you? A lot of suffering exists because we remain in a victim mindset, sometimes even months and years after the fact. 

Learning how to view the world from an Observer Consciousness can shift our perspective so that we start to see that life is happening FOR us. It is a very powerful mindset shift.

Inner Child Work

It is now quite a well-known and researched idea (Gabor Mate, Peter Levine et al.) that most of our core beliefs and coping mechanisms are created when we are really young. 

Through inner child work, we can start understanding how these beliefs were formed and how they show up in our present life. Once we shift these beliefs, we start to make different choices in life and can slowly start to redesign all aspects of our life.

Shadow Work

 There is a saying that “there’s a lot of power locked up in the basement of our psyche”. Our shadow is the parts of ourselves that we avoid or have repressed throughout our life. 

We do this in order to fit in this world and become functioning adults. However, anything that’s suppressed ultimately leaks out anyway. 

Understanding and Integrating our shadow can unlock a huge amount of power and helps us become a more integrated human being.

Archetypes 

We generally live our lives wearing different masks. These masks can be - a partner, an employee, a business person, a child, a parent etc. 

We continuously swap these masks unconsciously as we walk through life. While we are unconscious of these masks, they control us. 

Bringing more consciousness to the archetypes in our lives helps us be more in control and brings choice. 

Core Beliefs

At Nibana, our experience suggests that our life is almost like a holographic projection of the core beliefs we have and how these beliefs interact with each other about the following:

• How do we define our self-worth, i.e., are we inherently good enough and worthy or not? A lack of inherent self-worth often results in continuously striving and competing with others in order to prove our self-worth.

• How we define our value, i.e., our inherent value vs value defined by others. 

• Are we enough, i.e., do we feel that we are whole human beings or if we are somehow incomplete without others

• Do we belong, i.e., are we comfortable in our own skin and surroundings, or do we feel abandoned by the world?

• Are we lovable and are loved, i.e., do we feel that we have to be or act in a certain way to be lovable or not

Practices

Have you ever been to a workshop or a retreat where you got your head completely clear and were able to see what is possible and your potential? We call that a peak experience. Peak experiences are great for visualising what is possible. 

However, you then have to build the discipline to become that person who can reach that potential or execute the vision.

We also believe that our subconscious mind is a habituated mind. If we want to change beliefs and reprogram our minds, we need to cultivate new habits.

Unlock Your True Potential

We believe our true potential is unlocked when we master uncertainty and being in the unknown. A popular saying is that ‘growth happens beyond your comfort zone. Well, beyond your comfort zone lies the unknown. 

Steven Kotler, the founder of the Flow Research Project, says that ‘in order to get into the flow, we need to be able to shut our rational mind, which is also the fear-based mind. 

In order to be able to shut down this part of our brain, we need to be doing something that is at the edge of or beyond our comfort zone. 

There is another saying that ‘we need to feel safe in order to fully let go. Now, we tend to create a sense of safety by controlling things around us, which is the opposite of being in flow. 

In order to create a sense of safety to let go and experience flow, we need to build an internal sense of safety that allows us to go into uncharted territory and have the confidence that we will come out safely and with flying colours.

And in order to create this sense of safety, we need to build a solid foundation that includes understanding our core beliefs, our boundaries, how we operate with the victim consciousness and how to come out of it, and our relationship with desire - essentially, becoming conscious of all things that our subconscious mind used to live our life on autopilot. 

Working with a life coach at Nibana using our transformational coaching framework, you can learn how to unlock your true potential successfully.

An experienced transformational coach is a guide who can walk you through the process of aligning your life to your unique blueprint and help you design all parts of your life - personal, professional, intimate, and spiritual.

This kind of transformational process can be scary to some people as sometimes it can feel like jumping off a cliff. 

The support and guidance of an experienced life coach who has gone through a similar process can make all the difference in walking this path step by step. 

At Nibana, we offer online 1-on-1 and group coaching to clients all over the world. We have been working with clients from the Asia Pacific, Europe, the Indian subcontinent, North and South America and, of course, all over the UK. 

We have found that online sessions are as transformative as coaching in person. If you are local to London, there is an option to coach in person or have a mixture of online and in-person sessions. We are more than happy to create a bespoke program that suits your particular needs and desires. 

Our clients are mostly with professional careers who have experienced life and ticked some or all of the boxes that the world told us to to find that eternal joy, happiness and fulfilment - be it professional success, monetary achievement, acquisition of material wealth, relationships - and when we got to the top, we are left with a sense of - “there must be more to life than just this.”

Here’s what our clients are saying