Self Discovery coaching is about understanding your unique blueprint

Move from performance to presence - so your life, love and work feel unmistakably alive.

Book a free 20-min call
Trusted by founders, CXOs, and creativesClients across the UK, Europe, US, South America and AsiaDeep, respectful, no-fluff conversations Trusted by founders, CXOs, and creativesClients across the UK, Europe, US, South America and AsiaDeep, respectful, no-fluff conversations Trusted by founders, CXOs, and creativesClients across the UK, Europe, US, South America and AsiaDeep, respectful, no-fluff conversations

What is Self Discovery Coaching at Nibana?

Self Discovery Coaching helps you see the “invisible settings” that shape your life - core beliefs, protective patterns, old stories - and update them so you can choose on purpose, not autopilot. It’s the difference between running a program you didn’t design and living the one you consciously choose.

If you’ve checked the boxes of success yet feel stuck, flat or restless, this work gives you a clear map back to aliveness. Together we’ll surface inherited scripts, reconnect you to desire and values, and build simple embodied practices so change shows up in real moments—at work, in love, and with yourself.

You’ll leave with language for what’s true now, tools to regulate and decide, and a practical rhythm for integration. Think: clarity you trust, boundaries you can hold, and momentum that lasts.

What you’ll get

Clear, confident decision-making without second-guessing.
A calmer nervous system and fewer “reactive spirals.”
Stronger boundaries and cleaner conversations at work and at home.
Renewed energy, creativity and a sense of purpose.
More intimacy and ease in key relationships.
A personal practice you’ll actually keep (10–15 mins/day).
Better alignment between how you spend time and what you value.
Momentum you can feel within 4–6 weeks.

Is this for you?

  • You’ve ticked the boxes of success but feel off-track - something’s missing or muted.
  • You notice loops (overthinking, procrastination, same arguments) and want a clear map out.
  • You’re ready to examine core beliefs, update old stories, and choose on purpose.
  • You want clarity on values, desire and next steps you can trust.
  • You’d like simple regulation tools to handle stress and make cleaner choices.
  • You want a light daily practice (10–15 mins) that actually sticks.
  • You’re looking for change that shows up in real life - work, relationships and self.
  • Not for you if you want tips without introspection, or aren’t open to experimenting between sessions. If you need clinical therapy, I’m happy to recommend trusted clinicians.

The Process

  1. Connection call (20 min) — understand where you are and what you want.
  2. Deep-dive (60–90 min) — surface patterns, define outcomes, map first moves.
  3. Coaching container — bespoke cadence; practices to create durable change.
  4. Integration — track shifts; adjust as you evolve.

The Performance to Presence Method™

What we work with

  • Identity work - clarify who you are beneath roles and expectations. We do this by looking at things like Boundaries, Victim Consciousness, Core Beliefs, Shadow Work, Archetype & Inner Child work, and understanding Cultural Conditioning
  • Inner Skills - We generally learn skills that help us navigate the external world and be successful. However, we pay little attention or importance to our internal landscape. These skills can include cultivating attention, mindfulness, energy accounting, feminine-masculine dynamics, eros, principles of deep connection, embodiment, understanding desire cycle, orgasmic meditation (OM), reactivity vs responsiveness, and more…
  • Practices - At Nibana, we believe that in order to transform your life, sustainable change has to be rooted firmly in the discipline of practices or rituals.
  • Life as Play - Our coaching model introduces a set of principles for a life based on living life as an Infinite Game, i.e., creating a life where play and mystery are the core.

How change becomes durable

We pair insight with embodied practices—simple daily reps that re-train attention, emotion, and energy. Over weeks, these compound into a steadier nervous system, cleaner choices, and visible results at work and in relationships.

Our vibe

Straight, respectful conversations. No fluff. We go at the pace of truth—and we make room for play and mystery along the way.

Book a free 20-min call

What our clients say

What does one do after the big goal is achieved? What does one do when money, fame, or even impact/contribution no longer cut it out for you? I turned to Kapil for coaching.

Through a dozen sessions, I got to understand myself and the world out there more. His sessions gave me relief from the immediate, resolved what was in my head and heart, and more importantly, gave me tools and perspectives to go deeper and go beyond the immediate resolutions.

The sessions have made me unfuckwithable, and have given me a mature worldview on relationships.

I gained deep, lasting clarity on my business and the purpose it can serve for me and the world.

Also, I might not have had the wonderful, magical relationship with my “current fiance and soon-to-be wife” had Kapil not entered my life!

Tanuj Kalia
CEO, Lawctopus
India

I’ve had the honour of working with Kapil for the last few months and each and every session has always left me with an “aha” moment. His insightfulness, guidance and compassion has truly been a blessing.

I never thought that I would need a “coach” when Kapil was recommended to me yet now I have a better understanding of my fears, more clarity around my desires, and certainty about the life that I want to live. For that, I’m truly grateful. I would highly recommend Kapil

Christopher Thomas
Global Membership Manager, Club Quarter Hotels
New York City, USA

I reached out to Kapil as I was looking for some help with my career change. After one call, we got to the centre of my fear and my motivation behind leaving my job. But even more powerfully, Kapil helped me put into motion the bold action needed to make the leap. I left my job a few months later and haven’t looked back!

David Chambers
Men's Dating & Relationship Coach / Founder of The Authentic Man podcast
London, UK

Kapil gave me the tools and frameworks that helped me recognise my self-limiting beliefs and patterns. His advice and encouragement has been invaluable in my personal growth.

Bhavesh Dhaka
Consultant and Entrepreneur
Hong Kong

Common myths → What’s actually true

Myth “Coaching is just advice or cheerleading.”
Truth It’s a structured process that changes how you see and act.
Myth “It takes ages to feel anything.”
Truth You’ll notice early shifts; durable change compounds over weeks.
Myth “Coaching is only for crises.”
Truth It’s for anyone who wants a more alive, aligned next chapter.

Frequently asked questions

What does “self discovery” actually look like in a session?
We slow down the noise, map what’s real now, and work with live examples from your week. Expect guided enquiry, body-based check-ins, and practice in naming boundaries, needs and next steps—so change shows up in real moments, not just in your notes.
How do we uncover my core beliefs and recurring patterns?
We’ll surface “default settings” using structured prompts, belief mapping and pattern spotting. You’ll learn to recognise the cue → feeling → story → behaviour loop, then test small experiments that create different outcomes.
What frameworks or methods do you use in this track?
I blend evidence-informed coaching with parts-based enquiry, values/needs mapping, nervous-system regulation, boundary practice and weekly micro-experiments. It’s pragmatic, embodied and tailored to your context.
How will we track progress and integration between sessions?
We define 1–2 measurable focus areas, set weekly experiments, and review wins/blocks each session. You’ll use brief check-ins (2–3 mins/day) to notice shifts in clarity, reactivity, energy and follow-through.
How quickly will I see results?
Many clients feel relief and clarity within 1–2 sessions; sustainable shifts typically compound over 6–12 sessions as you practise new choices in real life.
How long are sessions and how often do we meet?
Standard sessions are 60 minutes, weekly or fortnightly. We’ll agree a cadence that fits your goals and season of life in the intro call.