Our Approach

At Nibana, our holistic approach is based on connecting to our core blueprint as an individual. We do this through self-awareness and self-inquiry, understanding and mastering our relationship with the life energy and people around us, and shifting our outlook towards life as we see it as an infinite game.

Here are the key components of the coaching model that we use in our coaching sessions:

Identity Work 

Identity work is about cultivating a deep understanding of who you are and how you got to where you are today. We do this by looking at things like:

Boundaries

Where do you say Yes to things when you are a No, and where do you say No to things when you are actually a Yes? Boundaries play an important role in defining our personal space – physically, emotionally and energetically.

It is our responsibility to understand our boundaries and educate people around us on how to be with us.

Victim Consciousness

Do you believe life is happening TO you or FOR you? A lot of suffering exists because we remain in a victim mindset, sometimes even months and years after the fact.

Learning how to view the world from an Observer Consciousness can shift our perspective so that we start to see that life is happening FOR us. It is a very powerful mindset shift.

Inner Child Work

It is now quite a well-known and researched idea (Gabor Mate, Peter Levine et al.) that most of our core beliefs and coping mechanisms are created when we are really young.

Through inner child work, we can start understanding how these beliefs were formed and how they show up in our present life. Once we shift these beliefs, we start to make different choices in life and can slowly start to redesign all aspects of our life.

Shadow Work

 There is a saying that “there’s a lot of power locked up in the basement of our psyche”. Our shadow is the parts of ourselves that we avoid or have repressed throughout our life.

We do this in order to fit in this world and become functioning adults. However, anything that’s suppressed ultimately leaks out anyway.

Understanding and Integrating our shadow can unlock a huge amount of power and helps us become a more integrated human being.

Archetypes 

We generally live our lives wearing different masks. These masks can be – a partner, an employee, a business person, a child, a parent etc.

We continuously swap these masks unconsciously as we walk through life. While we are unconscious of these masks, they control us.

Bringing more consciousness to the archetypes in our lives helps us be more in control and brings choice.

Core Beliefs

At Nibana, our experience suggests that our life is almost like a holographic projection of the core beliefs we have and how these beliefs interact with each other about the following:

• How do we define our self-worth, i.e., are we inherently good enough and worthy or not? A lack of inherent self-worth often results in continuously striving and competing with others in order to prove our self-worth.

• How we define our value, i.e., our inherent value vs value defined by others.

• Are we enough, i.e., do we feel that we are whole human beings or if we are somehow incomplete without others

• Do we belong, i.e., are we comfortable in our own skin and surroundings, or do we feel abandoned by the world?

• Are we lovable and are loved, i.e., do we feel that we have to be or act in a certain way to be lovable or not

Inner Skills

During our lifetime, we generally learn skills that help us navigate the external world and be successful. However, we pay little attention, or importance, to our internal landscape.

Our transformational coaching uses various concepts and modalities to develop this internal landscape.

For example – cultivating attention, mindfulness, energy accounting, feminine-masculine dynamics, eros, principles of deep connection, embodiment, understanding desire cycle, orgasmic meditation (OM), reactivity vs responsiveness, and more…